I recieved an email asking about the fabric softener, so I thought I'd just copy/paste my answer in here:

"I use 1/4 a cup per load. I have a Downy ball, so I just throw the softener in that. I have to shake the mix up every time before I use it, though. It seems to work just fine, but the scent doesn't last. I'll have to dink with the "formula" to see if I can make the scent stronger. But, my clothes do NOT smell like vinegar :)"

I've used the softener for about 3 loads so far and it works!! No static cling :) Yay. It doesn't leave a scent, though (like I said) so, I don't know if I need more scent, or to mix it with the baking powder first and let that sit...donno. But hey, what a cheap alternative, huh?