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March 16, 2007

Teenagers And The Blame Game

Being a parent to teenagers can be an emotional roller coaster. Though there are many moments of joy. But, sometimes I find myself in tears. Frustrated, angry, sad, confused... I said frustrated, right?

Why do I get blamed for everything? Today with my oldest son it was working my good nerve to the point of snapping. Everything is M"Y fault. He's bored and it is MY fault because I don't want to drive him anywhere. I never do, apparently (even though I feel like a taxi service). Mind you he had nowhere to go and wasn't asking for a ride, he was just using general excused to blame me for his current state of boredom. I tried giving him some options of things to do. Naturally they were all stupid and somehow MY fault that they were so incredibly stupid.

We saw some of his friends outside skateboarding. Why doesn't he go join them? He just got a new board. But oh silly me. He doesn't want to do that. Gosh no. No specific reason, of coarse, beyond the fact that it is stupid and I am pretty dumb for even suggesting it.

I have to run to the store, so he comes with. Brings some money. I ask him if he's expecting to go to a specific store, he tells me he is not. We arrive at the grocery store and he moans and whines about the fact that we are not at Wal-mart or somewhere where he can "get something" that he wants.

"Did I not ask you if there was a SPECIFIC store you wanted to go to..?!!"

Again, I'm blamed for a waste of time shopping trip and for the boredom that ensues, which he emphasis by falling asleep.

I've not yet adjusted to teenagers and I'm not sure when I will. If I ever will. The switch from being an all-adoring child to an angsty, this-is-my-world-you-just-live-in-it person happened way to fast for me to prepare myself. And, strange enough, those nearly intolerable teenagers will cozy up to me in the same manner as when they able to count their years on one hand's worth of fingers, as if nothing has changed and they didn't completely crush my feelings with in the same day.

I should be more compassionate, having been a pretty scrappy teen myself (in fact much more intolerable than they are, heh), but I'm not. Sometimes I feel like I'm still in the process of coming to terms with my teenage years, as rocky as they were at times.

If you're fortunate enough to have a healthy, happy, well-adjusted, well-liked teenager and have no idea what I am talking about, I truly envy you. Adolescents are a strange brew, God love 'em.



Comments

Ohhh thank heaven I'm not the only one going through this "teen thing". Mine isn't even a teen yet. WOn't be 13 until June, but man oh man.. he is pushing buttons in places I didn't even know I had buttons.

Posted by: Terri | March 18, 2007 11:38 AM

I feel your pain, I was glad when they were out of their teens! Hey have you looked at payperpost? I have made over $300.00 in less than a month!

Posted by: Sueellen | March 20, 2007 12:09 PM